Let Them Be a Dog

Dog enjoying the mud

I’ve spent my fair share of time trying to manage and control all kinds of dog behaviors only to realize that, more often than not, the best solution was already being offered by the dog.

Sometimes, the answer is simple: let them be a dog. Within reason, of course.

We like to believe we have more control than we actually do—but we don’t. You can keep your dog confined and still end up with destructive chewing. You can avoid every cat you see and still have a dog ready to chase. If we don’t provide a healthy, appropriate outlet, dogs will create one for themselves.

And honestly, constantly trying to control everything sounds exhausting—like a full-time job with no paycheck. Our pets already live lives where most of their choices are made for them. Do we really need to micromanage the very behaviors that make dogs who they are?

Think about it. Rolling in something smelly? We can wash them. Pulling on a short leash? Try a longer one. Chasing wildlife? Give them a flirt pole and let them chase in a way that works for both of you. Sniffing another dog’s back end? That’s not rude—that’s communication. It’s information. It’s a proper greeting in their world.

Some of the biggest breakthroughs I see with clients happen when they begin to view the world through their dog’s eyes. We took wolves—bold enough to live alongside humans—and, over thousands of years, we didn’t turn them into people. We created dogs—animals with their own needs, instincts, and drives.

Depending on the breed, a dog may feel fulfilled by digging, guarding, herding, chasing, or yes—even barking. And yet, those are often the very behaviors we try to eliminate.

If you choose a breed knowing its genetic tendencies, you already have a head start. But even when you don’t, there’s always an opportunity to learn. When your dog does something you don’t love, pause and ask yourself: What is my dog getting out of this? Is this tied to instinct? And most importantly, how can I provide a better outlet?

When you shift your mindset from control to understanding, everything changes. You’ll find more peace, your dog will find more fulfillment, and your relationship will grow stronger because of it.

Let them be a dog, and you might just discover a better way to be a human, too.